Anal sex can be one of three things: frightening, terrible or amazing. Maybe you've heard horror stories and you're totally not waiting for someone to come around, or let someone go their own way !. You may be tempted, but you do not know where to start. There are reassuring, enjoyable ways to deal with anal sex, and it can be fantastic if you know what you are doing - and so preparation is a plus. It is not as easy as it looks in porn, if you try to do it like in most porn movies, it will be as if you learn to shoot from iron men movies: someone will certainly get hurt! Get rid of those porn movies and put your fears aside for anal sex. All you need is this step-by-step guide to having comfortable, safe and satisfying anal sex, then go away without fear - and have fun!

 

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Does Anal Play Feel Good for Women?

Butt play is different from vaginal sex and there will be sensations that you have not experienced before. You are now entering a territory that takes education, time, patience and LUBRICATION (LUBE! Use lots of it, and more of it). Get your brain on board. There is a lot of misinformation, taboo, and stereotypes that can confuse and cause fear. …And what’s the first thing your body (and butt) does when you’re scared? It tightens up. Which is no way to welcome in a penetrative object. Being mentally relaxed, well-educated and consensually excited to try anal is essential.

 

Can women orgasm from anal sex?

Absolutely. A woman, has around 8,000 sensory nerve endings in the clitoris. The clitoris is shaped like a wishbone and for many women the clitoris extends all the way down to the anus. Anal orgasms happen through indirect stimulation of the g-spot and a-spot, through the shared wall between the vagina and rectum.

 

Does anal sex hurts?

The key to avoiding pain is lube and attention. Meaning that if you’re forcing your body (or your partner’s body) to do something that doesn’t feel good, it will be painful. There are a few different reasons why anal sex might not feel good. One of the most common ones is a stingy or friction sensation. That’s because there isn’t enough lubricant, so you’ll want to add more, and more, and maybe a little more. Don’t tolerate or endure discomfort because all that does it make your body tighten up. This is especially important if there’s a lot of “in and out” motion.

 

 

Its not a race!

The anal sphincter is strong, yet delicate. During solo anal play, start by stimulating the external muscles with a lubricated finger. When performing with a partner, your options are extended to giving and receiving an anal massage and/or analingus. Both acts of anal foreplay are intended to help you relax and guide you one step closer to inserting your butt plug. The more relaxed and comfortable you are, the easier inserting an anal plug will become. Take your time; it’s not a race! Enjoy the new sensations and make sure to use plenty of lubrication.

 

 

Use Lots of Lube

Lube is an essential tool for anal play because, unlike the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating. But generally, the best type of lube for anal play depends entirely on what you’re doing. For anal plug play, we recommend using a thick, high viscosity, water-based “gel” lubricant. It’s important to note that although silicone-based lubricants are a great option for other forms of anal play, they should never be used with silicone anal plugs. Why? The only thing that sticks to silicone… is silicone, and this can sometimes warp and damage the product.

 

 

Going from zero to penis is a no-no!

Get to know your fanny first. Before partners get involved, go it alone. Massage the outside of your anus and maybe even dip the tip of your finger in your own bum while you’re alone in the shower. After you’ve experimented with your fingers, played with an appropriately sized butt plug or anal beads, and found that you enjoy the experience – then move to anal penetration with a penis or dildo (if that is your intended goal).

 

 

Anal beads

Anal beads are some of the most versatile butt toys around! They’re often small to medium in size and easy to use, making them perfect for beginners. If you’ve never seen a set of anal beads before, they’re exactly what their name suggests: a row of graduated ABS plastic or silicone beads, held together with either nylon string, thin pieces of silicone, or silicone moulded into a base. The beads start very small at the insertion point and grow slightly larger and larger as you get closer to the end. You’ll always want to choose anal beads that have an easily graspable loop or a T-shaped piece of plastic at the very end so they can be easily removed.

 

 

What is a Butt Plug?

Butt Plugs are a great place to start exploring backdoor pleasure. Like anal play, a butt plug can be enjoyed regardless of your gender or sexual orientation.If you have a prostate, butt plugs can stimulate it, and if you have a vagina, a butt plug can create incredibly pleasurable pressure on the back vaginal wall. One of the great things about butt plugs is that they can be used for hands-free pleasure. Butt plugs can be worn while walking, dancing, or during foreplay. Once comfortably positioned, they apply pressure and provide a “feeling of fullness”, while your hands and attention can move to a different activity.

 

 

Vibrating butt plugs

Vibrating butt plugs help relax the sphincter muscles and stimulate the G-spot or P-spot. This type of plugs is especially great for beginners because the vibrations massage away muscle tightness while providing extra pleasure to the sensitive nerves in and around the anus. The Novice Plug is a good example of a beginner-friendly vibrating butt plug. If vibrations are too intense at first, you can always use your plug with the motor turned off until you’re used to the feeling of anal stimulation.

 

 

Facing Down

One of the advantages of a face down position is that it makes everything much more accessible to the giver. The more they can see what they’re doing, the smoother things will go. That’s especially true if you’re starting off with anal massage to warm up. Try lying flat with your legs apart. This is a super relaxing position and it gives a lot of easy access. If you find it’s not as comfortable as you’d like, you can bend one leg at the hip and knee , resting that leg on a pillow. Find the angle that allows you to relax into the surface of the bed.

 

 

Bend over

You can also stand on the floor and bend over the bed, the kitchen table, the hood of the car, or anything else that’s the right height. Put a little bend in your knees to give a little extra movement in your hips.

 

 

Facing Up

If you want to try a face-up position, start by placing a small pillow under your hips and another one under your head. That puts your spine in a C-curve and helps everything stay relaxed. You can place your feet flat on the bed with your knees bent, or you can grab the backs of your knees and draw them to your chest.

 

 

Relax first and get in the mood

Turn on some mood lighting or set up some candles. Put some of your favorite sexy music on. Get out your toys and lubricant, just as if you were creating an enticing place for a lover. Start off with some self-pleasure, and take your time with it. Raise some erotic heat before you add anal play. When you’re ready, lie on your back with your feet on the bed and your knees bent. Try having your knees up or lay them out to the sides. Find a position that gives you easy access to your anus.

 

 

Discover your body

Place your fingertip over the opening and take a deep breath. Can you feel the anus expand and soften as you inhale? Can you feel it contract as you exhale? You’ve discovered one of the best ways to make anal penetration easier: deep, slow breathing.Time to test your new buttplug, Slowly!..and don't forget the LUBE, a lot of it!

 

 

Patients is het key!

It may take some time to get to where you want with your anal play again. Resist the urge to be too goal-oriented and make the experience more about experiencing pleasure. Soon you will discover the sensational orgasms of anal sex!.

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